Still in love with your ex? Looking around for break up help? You have to make a choice whether to find help to move on, or help to win back your ex, who you’re still in love with.

In case you feel like it’s time for you to move on, the kind of break up help you should be looking for depends very much on how bad the relationship was, especially at the time of the break up. You could have gone through a major drama that well and truly took it out of you emotionally, and if that’s the case, there’s no doubt you should give yourself plenty of time to heal the scars and get over the relationship.

Taking good care of yourself is vital after going through emotional turmoil, even more so if you find that you’re still in love with your ex. If you made any rash decisions during the break up, which in retrospect proved to be wrong, be careful not to beat yourself up over them. Allow yourself to be human, and make mistakes. You did what you thought was best to do at the time.

The focus of the break up help you get should be to look after yourself, rather than your ex, and their emotions.  You have left your ex behind, and though you still feel for him or her, he/she is no longer your responsibility.

If you feel like you need professional help to put the failed relationship into perspective, you should seek it as soon as you can. If you continue to find yourself in a vulnerable emotional state, you should make sure you get back on track and restore your self esteem sooner rather than later.

If you’re after the kind of break up help that will get you back with your ex, do some of the things above, but in addition, develop and implement a strategy that will help you make up with your ex.

Let’s look at those things again: first and foremost, take care of yourself, see a professional for help if you think that’s what you need and recover your self-esteem and direction, while “forgetting” about your ex for a few weeks.

Once you’ve gone through this stage of rebuilding your life, and only then, you can make contact with your ex.  Ask them to meet up in a neutral place. At this meeting you should explain to them that you still have feelings for them. Do this in a calm fashion, without being overly emotional.  Tell them that after thinking things through, you’re convinced the relationship can work, and that you’d like to give it another chance. Make sure you listen to your ex’ point of view. You may not agree – but you need to listen!.

Now it’s time to leave your ex partner to think things through, so give them some space, and wait for them to get back to you. To tell you the truth, things could go either way, regardless of what kind of break up help you go with. If things doesn’t go your way, don’t dwell on it, and beat yourself up. The important thing is that you did your best.

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This entry was posted by Karsten on Sunday, November 15th, 2009 at 07:24 and is filed under Break Up Help, General, Get My Ex Back, Relationship Recovery. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.