There are 6 things that, without a doubt, will build trust in a relationship. Do you want to know what they are? It’s not necessarily what you think, because they are not what comes straight to mind. For instance, do you think you always need to spice things up? Wrong! In fact, being a steady rock in a relationship is more valuable than being someone wanting constant change. Here are 6 tips on how you can build trust in a relationship – guaranteed.

First, I said it before – and I’m going to say it again, you have to be predictable. Many people seems to think you can only keep a romance alive by stirring things up, but that’s not the case. Of cause it’s nice to go and try new interesting restaurants, and you shouldn’t stop giving surprise presents, but above all of this, a successful relationship is built on consistency and reliability. The best way to build trust in a relationship is to be reliable on an everyday basis.

Next, you need tell the truth. Make sure you align your words with your message. What I mean by this is that your body language needs to communicate the same message as your mouth. If you tell your partner you’re happy, but look like you could happily kill someone, they don’t hear what you say. They can tell from the tone of your voice and the look on your face that something isn’t right. You need to communicate the truth at all times. To build trust in a relationship, you need to match up your words with your message.

Third, you should never keep secrets. The trust in a relationship breaks down by having secrets. Be open and honest about things. Rest assured that, eventually, the truth is going to come out. Keeping things secret takes an awful lot of energy out of you.  Imagine what your relationship would be like, if this energy went into building your relationship in stead.

Fourth, let your partner know about your needs. Don’t be shy! Having your partner trying to guess what you need is no good. It’s better to tell them. Being self-centered is okay, as long as you’re not selfish. In fact, if you fail to communicate your needs, you’re in danger of smothering your partner.

Fifth, you need to know when to say no. It’s a good thing when your partner lets you know about his or her needs. But that doesn’t mean to say that you always have to say yes. In the end, how is your partner going to respect you if you never say no?. Actually, you build trust in a relationship by refusing to be subjugated to him/her will.

Last, but not least, always pursue growth. When you want to plant a flower, you seek to give it a good start by digging the soil. Digging the soil of your relationship can be a painful experience. See this pain as a fertilizer, going into the soil, and improving growing conditions. Sometimes crisis, turmoil and questions can be beneficial, so don’t shun them. They will become the fertilizer you need to grow and strengthen your relationship. Difficulties should be embraced.

There’s no way round a bit of pain, if you want to build trust in a relationship. In saying that though, you will become much stronger personally as you work through this pain, and it’s sure to strengthen your relationship as well.

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